Why You Should Do A Boudoir Photoshoot In Your Twenties

I did a boudoir photoshoot and you should too.

Before you shake your head and click to another page, hear me out. Boudoir photoshoots aren’t just for your partner. They also aren’t necessarily in your underwear. Sure, that tends to be a major theme – a lot of women choose to do these shoots as gifts to their partners for a special occasion, and there is nothing wrong with that.

But there is also nothing wrong with doing a boudoir shoot for you.

When I planned my first boudoir shoot, it was the typical “gift for my partner” situation, as an anniversary surprise. But my (now ex) partner ruined the surprise and got mad that I was planning to be photographed in a risque outfit. He told me he didn’t want them, and was extremely upset about the idea at all.

So I did what any rational, strong, independent woman would do: I did the damn thing anyway. Here’s why you should too.

Do it for you.

Admittedly, at first I was a little awkward about being half-clothed in front of a camera. I’m already weird in front of cameras, but trying to look provocative in front of the camera is even stranger for me. But I chose a photographer who is a close friend of mine that I’ve known for more than a decade. The fact that I knew her made me more comfortable, and I quickly got past my shyness.

Once I overcame that initial awkwardness, my confidence began to rise. It felt so natural and fun – my self esteem got a major boost that day. And just talking with my friend/photographer about the session (i.e. the fact that my partner at the time was against it but I was doing it anyway) made me feel like my feelings were validated.

Do it for fun.

Did I mention how fun it was? Even in the awkward moments, I enjoyed our boudoir session! I found myself giggling a few times because it felt so freeing to just be able to be me without fear of judgment about my body.

Do it because you can.

We’re young and we won’t be this way forever. Take advantage of your youth and capture it on film just because! This is an opportunity to do something just for yourself – and how often will these chances come up as you grow older?

Do it to remember yourself as you are.

In 10, 25, or 50 years you can look back at these photos and smile at your fearlessness. It’s okay if lingerie isn’t your thing! Wear something that makes you feel confident – maybe it’s an oversize tshirt and leggings, maybe it’s a party dress. The purpose is to feel good about yourself, no matter what you’re in.

Do it to embrace your flaws.

Body positivity is a major buzzword for a reason. Learning to love yourself exactly as you are is such an amazing experience that begins with recognizing your flaws. It’s okay that you aren’t perfect – nobody is! Take a boudoir shoot as your chance to overcome those insecurities.

Do it to focus on your strengths.

Strengths can be physical, but they can be so much more than that. If you choose the right boudoir photographer, she will be able to capture more than just your image on film. She will capture your personality whether it’s playful, seductive, serious, or silly.

Boudoir isn’t just about taking some half-dressed pictures of yourself and handing them over to your partner. It’s so much more than that. It’s about build your self confidence, teaching you about yourself, and giving you freedom to express your personality in whatever way you desire.

Have you done boudoir shoots before? Tell me about your experience in the comments!